Abandoned and heartbroken

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This happened just about six weeks ago. What, just devastated our marriage and broke my heart!. My wife who is mildly mentally impaired and receives SSI and myself a disabled Vietnam vet were married for 33 years we had been through many tough times that made us stronger including the loss of an 18 month old baby born with cerebral palsy. We have three other children whom are mildly mentally impaired, all whom receive SSI. Two daughters and a son. They are all in their 20's now. the oldest girl is married and has two children. The middle child my youngest girl is single with two children and has a new boyfreind. My son, who is single and lived with me and his mother. Well my youngest daughter's new boyfriend, a 22 year old gothic punk who has a college degree in auto mechanics and has lost every job he had in that field and is now a bagboy at a supermarket, broke my six month old grandson's arm and then he and my daughter avoided taking him to a doctor or emergency room for three weeks. Well the authorities- childrens protective services got involved and the district attorney had him submit to a polygraph test, which he failed. Even with their statements to me, which changed on three different occasions of how it accured. I became very suspicious and declined to write a character reference for them to the D.A.. Bear in mind I couldn't bring myself to turn them in, for the descrepincies in their stories either!. To say the least the fact that I couldn't bring myself to support them outraged both of them. Now my daughter's boyfriend's mother gets involved, she doesn't want to see her son in jail. His mother has a rock and roll band in Hayward, CA, has allot of money and influence. Now, my world starts to fall apart they have taken my wife out to fancy lobster dinners and shopping for clothing. My wife at first had the same opinions as I did about the baby. They finally got to my wife with all the gifts and attention they gave her. The next thing they did was to turn my wife on me, it wasn't long before my wife was convinced I had murdered my own son 20 years ago. Bear in mind I'm a 59 year old (bedridden half the time/wheelchair bound, chronically ill {with CHRONIC PAIN from full cervical-thoracic-lumbar spinal stenosis with spontaneous fractures in the thoracic region, spinal arthrits throughout the spine with bone spurs encroaching and pressing on the spinal cord, congestive heart failure, four heart attacks with only 20% heart function remaining, extreme hypertension, arterial sclerosis, COPD, Asthma, Emphysema, Type 2 Diabetes, ULNAR NERVE PALSY - PARALYSIS and IN A MANUAL WHEELCHAIR THAT I CAN'T WHEEL ON MY OWN. Every time my wife and daughter and her boyfreind returned home from one of their shopping trips my wife would become more callous towards me. It didn't stop there, my daughter would start to verbally abuse me and call me every foul word ever spoken, her boyfriend would join in and say why don't you go to a nursing home you old f**k so your wife and son can get on with their lives. He told my son I would never empty my own fathers urinals even if he was dying, Then he even told me upon one visit all crippled people should be uthinized by Dr. Kevorkian so taxpayer's wouldn't be burdened with them. I guess his mother was so busy being a rock and roll star she didn't have time to teach her son any moral values. Needless to say I told them to get out , they wouldn't until my son picked up the phone to call the police. My wife of 33 years abandoned me not long after. But thats not the end they have since made every possible attempt to convince my son to abandon me, on many occasions by phone, my wife has also made numerous attempts to get my son to abandon me. Without any success, he is loyal to his father. Now she want's a divorce!!! How can someone you"ve loved for so many years just get up and run off like that?
davidmw

[marie56]

David, this has been over a year since you have wrote this, how are you doing?

[deloris9]

`DEAR DAVID

IM SORRY FOR YOUR FAMILY PROBLEMS,BUT U DID THE RIGHT THING FOR YOUR GRANSON OR MAYBE EVEN SAVED HIS LIFE.EVERYDAY U HEAR HOW KIDS ARE BEING ABUSE AND KILLED AT THE HANDS OF THE PARENTS.AND FAMILY AND FRIENDS SIT BACK AND DO NOTHING TO HELP,HE IS LUCKY TO HAVE SOME1 LIKE U AROUND.A FAR AS YOUR SON-LAW AND DAUGHTER,WELL..DAUGHTER LIKE MOTHER.YOU SON-LAW IS A BULLY AND A A-HOLE SHOW HOW HIS MOM DIDNT TEACH HIM NOTHING.PPL DONT REALZINE THAT ONE DAY THEY WILL GET SICK OR DISABLE AND THAT THEY ARE GOING TO NEED SOMEBODY,OR COURSE BY THEN THEIR SEE THE LIGHT THEN.YOUR WIFE HAVE SOME ISSUE LIKE THE REST OF UR FAMILY.BUT IF THEY TREAT U LIKE THAT SOONER OR LATER THEY WILL DO HER THE SAME WAY TOO.THAT UR HOUSE YOU DONT DESERVE THAT VERBLE ABUSIVE..CALL THE POLICE.WHEN U KNOW THAT THEY ARE GOING ACT A FOOL,I WOULDNT PUT IT PASS THEM TO TRY AND HURT U.YOU ARE TO SICK TO BE PUTTIN UP WITH THAT MESS.AND U REALLY NEED TO LOOK IN TO ABOUT A LIVE IN WILL.U DONT WONT THOSE PPL MAKLIN CHOICES ABOUT UR LIFE OR HEALTH.AND DONT WORRY ABOUT UR WIFE OR ANYTHIN ELSE OPUT SIDE U AND UR OTHER SON/GRANBABY,OK

[delite4life (deleted)]

`What a very sad story. It's obvious that your heart is truly broken and you don't know what to do next. I see that the post is older and I'm just wondering how you are doing. I hope that things have brightened up for you. It's hard enough to deal with disabilities and health issues but when the emotional stuff piles onto it all.....life can seem unbearable. I am keeping you in thought and I pray things improve in your life.